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November 11, 2011Posted by on
July 23, 2011Posted by on
My tonsils are being mean to me, with the inflimation of the glands, all that. So I trundle up to my lovely local doctor. I sign in and sit in the waiting room, where an electronic display board flashes the names of patients. My turn.
“Misc. Rose, Mattie to room 5.”
My local NHS GP surgery has accepted Misc as a gender neutral title!
How it happened –
I have been going fairly regularly to the Docs due to other medical problems, and so finally got round to mentioning that I feel misgendered, if not entierly non gendered. I said that I’d like to see a head doctor who could dicuss the matter with me and possibly give me a nice certificate telling people who tell me that I must be one or another to be gone. His reaction was much better than I expected. He asked that I send him as much information as I could to explain what my gender identity was and that he would help me as much as he could. He was pretty damned enthusiastic.
On the way out I filled in a change of personal information form for a new address that asked for a title. I put Misc, with a short explanation of why and promptly forgot about it, untill my tonsils started being mean to me.
All of the excitement!
July 18, 2011Posted by on
I just posted this to Tumblr, but here it is:
They’re the number one result for “deed poll uk” on Google. The UK Deed Poll Service.
Way back, when I was getting my name changed, I asked whether or not they would include any gender-neutral titles in their service, and they told me no. They said that they would only accept titles accepted by official record holders such as the Identity and Passport Service (IPS).
Since getting my new passport, and having the title Misc used on all of the paperwork without any confused looks or questioning, I emailed the UK Deed Poll Service and linked to my blog post with proof that the IPS sent me my passport in an envelope with Misc on it.
I just got a response, part of which is the following:
Since you first emailed us about this subject several months ago, we have been giving it quite a bit of thought and agree that a gender neutral title should be available to anyone who wishes to have one. We have a preference for Mx since Misc is already a well known and frequently used abbreviation for miscellaneous (the non-gender related meaning). Mx would be a unique abbreviation.
Since you have demonstrated some record holders can and will accommodate a new title, we now believe issuing deed polls with Mx as a new title will help force the issue with record holders who are reluctant to recognise the new title.
If you don’t feel like you want to do your own free deed poll, getting a document-with-title made by someone else is now an option for genderqueer people. This is amazing because:
- As the person said in the email, other organisations who’re reluctant to recognise the new title can now have a recognised identity organisation thrown at them.
- People who are or may be genderqueer but don’t know about the title may see it when applying for deed poll documents, and feel accepted and recognised.
The latter is a BIG DEAL. Non-binary people are basically invisible.
My next step is to use evidence of this awesome step forward (along with the IPS evidence) to fully persuade people such as councils and banks that Mx and Misc are acceptable, and that non-binary people do exist.
Editing to add: Positive reinforcement is arguably more powerful! If you want to write a letter to them to say thank you, and to tell them what it means to you, their address is: UK Deed Poll Service, Freebournes Court, Witham, CM8 2BL.
July 11, 2011Posted by on
ETA: Here’s my Tumblr blog post for (slightly) more detail.
July 9, 2011Posted by on
July 2, 2011Posted by on
I don’t know if this is going to work for me, but I’m going to give it a try. I’ll be keeping a few of these in my wallet at all times to hand to people who’re unfamiliar with the vocabulary.
They’re 8.5 x 5.5 cm with text on both sides; feel free to steal the idea and the words and stuff if you feel like it.
June 26, 2011Posted by on
June 25, 2011Posted by on
Click to enlarge this marvellous item. It’s an envelope from the Department for Work and Pensions. I sent them a letter to tell them about my identity, which contained my deed poll for my new name, and an information sheet about genderqueer titles and pronouns, among other things. They sent my deed poll and information sheet back to me and I received it today. Yes, that’s the title Misc in front of my name on the envelope, there.
The DWP, at least a small part of it, has recognised a gender-neutral title.
Have you had Misc or Mx recognised by any organisations, small or large? Leave a comment, and link to pages where you’ve written about it, and we’ll include it in our as yet unpublished genderqueer-friendly organisations database.
(Inspired by this and the passport success yesterday, I’ve written to all the remaining organisations that need to know about the new name. I will let you know about all the responses.)
June 24, 2011Posted by on
The original is here on my personal blog, but I thought this might come in handy for those of you who’re changing your names!
So, today has been awesome.
What with donations and purchases from PiP, I have managed to raise almost enough to get a new passport in my new name. I thought you’d like to hear about it.
First of all, I got new photos with my newly short hair. (It’s been short for about 3/4 years, but I got it cut today, so yay.) Then I took my gender info sheet with me, so that I wouldn’t have to explain everything in-depth again. Then when I filled in the form, there was a title field (I put Misc) and a sex field (I put F, due to I have a vag, and I’m guessing that’s what they want to know about?).
I spoke to the loveliest form-checker. She was really friendly and genuine and happy, and when I asked her about the unusual title, she said it was fine and she could write it on her paperwork, and if the processing people had any queries they could call me. AND THEN she asked to keep the gender info sheet, so that she could have a nosy through it between customers, and keep it on file for future reference. She was properly interested and awesome about it all.
What a legend. LEG. END.
June 1, 2011Posted by on
Once upon a time Facebook was our new shiney love, innocent and free. It did not have a genderfield, giving the genderly interesting a rest from the binary choice field. Alas those days are gone, and the choice is male or female.Despair (or mild annoyance, depends really) rules the inter-lands.
BUT NO! There is an answer. This is a nice and clear how to video from Simon Bayaidah, taken from http://ciscentrismsucks.tumblr.com and found for GQUK by Cassian. It involves using Safari, but I expect there are workrounds for other browsers. If anyone manages Firefox, Opera, etc versions please let us know and we’ll post them.